How to Create a Brilliant Parenting Plan
Co-parenting after a separation or divorce can be challenging, but with a well-crafted parenting plan, you can ensure your child’s best interests are the top priority. A solid plan minimizes conflict, sets clear expectations, and fosters a healthy environment for your child. If you’re navigating co-parenting, follow these tips to create a parenting plan that works for everyone involved.
Best Practices for Co-Parenting Planning
1. State Your Goals: Best Interests of Your Child
The primary goal of any parenting plan is to ensure the well-being of your child. When drafting a plan, think about their emotional, physical, and psychological needs. Consider aspects like school schedules, extracurricular activities, and their relationships with both parents. Making decisions with your child’s best interests in mind will create a more stable and harmonious environment.
2. Establish Clear Custody and Visitation Arrangements
Your plan should clearly outline custody arrangements, whether it’s joint custody or one parent having primary custody. Define where the child will live and what the visitation schedule looks like. Be detailed about holidays, birthdays, and vacations to avoid future misunderstandings.
3. Maintain Open Communication
Effective communication is key in all aspects of life and it’s especially important when co-parenting. Create a plan that encourages open dialogue between both parents. Regularly check in with each other about your child’s progress at school, health concerns, and other important topics. There are plenty of apps and tools designed to facilitate co-parenting communication, especially when direct contact might be difficult.
4. Be Flexible but Consistent
While it’s essential to have a structured plan, be prepared to adapt when necessary. Life changes, and so do children’s needs. Build flexibility into the parenting plan to accommodate adjustments, but stay consistent in the big areas like school schedules and health-related decisions. Balancing consistency and flexibility will help keep stress low for both parents and children.
5. Address Decision-Making Authority
Another critical component of a brilliant parenting plan is outlining who has decision-making authority in certain areas of the child’s life, such as education, healthcare, and religious upbringing. Shared decision-making can reduce conflict, but if it’s not feasible, decide which parent will take the lead in specific areas to avoid confusion later on.
6. Plan for Dispute Resolution
Even with the best intentions, disagreements may arise. Have a backup plan. We recommended outlining a process for resolving disputes to minimize tension and prevent escalations. This might involve mediation or you can agree on a third-party arbitrator. Having a clear resolution process can prevent small issues from turning into bigger problems.
7. Keep the Plan Child-Centered
Remember, the parenting plan is about what works best for your child. Resist the urge to make decisions based on personal preferences or past conflicts. Instead, keep discussions child-focused and geared toward creating a supportive and loving environment.
8. Regularly Reassess the Plan
As children grow and circumstances change, your parenting plan may need adjustments. Revisit the plan regularly—especially after significant life events, such as moving to a new city, changing schools, or when children enter new developmental stages. Set a time annually to reassess the plan to ensure it remains in the best interests of your child.
Co-Parenting Plan Template
Many of us thrive on structure. Create a clear, structured plan that both you and your ex can agree on, reference as needed, and adjust in the future. We’ve provided an easy-to-use template to help you get started.
Topic |
Parent A Comments & Requests |
Parent B Comments & Requests |
Special Notes |
Decision |
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Parenting Goals & Best Interests of the Child |
Keep child at current school Attend church on Sundays |
Reduce parenting conflicts Dependable home environment |
Child’s physical health and emotional needs |
Encourage parent participation at child’s performances |
Custody Plan (may be ordered by the Court) |
50/50 Joint Custody 70/30 Joint Custody |
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Visitation Plan (holidays, summer break, special events) |
4th of July Weekend Halloween Christmas Eve and Christmas Day |
Fall break Winter break Spring break Summer break |
Parent A wants to be called first if Parent B needs a babysitter during their time. Parent A gets all major holidays (define holidays and dates), except Christmas Eve. Kids will be picked up at 8am and returned by 8pm on 12/24. Parent B gets fall break and spring and partial summer break (list all dates) |
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Communication Plan (between parents, school, medical, etc.) |
Complete decision-making authority related to education Co-Parenting communication by phone call or app |
50/50 decision-making on all medical decisions Co-Parenting communication via text message or email |
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Dispute Resolution Plan |
Will agree to mediation if agreement cannot be reached |
Will seek legal guidance if unable to communicate effectively after 3 attempts |
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Assess the Co-Parenting Plan |
Review Plan Annually until child is in high school |
Review Plan Quarterly Until Child is 16 |
Both parents will make modifications to the plan and re-assess in 6 months |
Transition to Co-Parenting with Civility
For parents who are newly separated, the transition to co-parenting can be emotionally taxing. No matter what caused the separation, stay civil. Keep interactions respectful and child-focused. And, remember to take care of yourself. When you’re well, you’ll be in the best position to support your child.
Make sure your parenting plan stands the test of time, ensuring the best possible future for your child. By focusing on clear communication, flexibility, and your child’s needs, you can create a parenting plan that supports a healthy co-parenting relationship.
Seek Legal Advice
Finally, consulting with experienced Reno family and divorce lawyers is a critical step in your divorce process. Our legal professionals can help protect both your interests and your children’s rights. Contact us today for a consultation.
